this doesn’t actually solve the problem of being awkward.
It was a vicious cycle that made it difficult to get any close friends.
Before I get to my tips, first I need to quickly point out some very common advice you’ll read in articles online that basically never works.
Usually this is advice written by people who have never actually struggled with poor conversation skills, low social confidence or a lack of friends.
You can also ‘tune’ your mind quickly by ‘warming up’ before challenging social situations. If you have to go to a party, date or interview later today, then do something simple beforehand like asking a couple strangers for directions to get your mind into more of a social flow.
And the second step to stop coming across as weird is to… Back when I always felt really anxious and tense around people, I found that they always became more cautious and defensive around me.