How to use online dating successfully
Turn on the TV and it’s not about kittens being saved from trees, but drive-by shootings.
That doesn’t mean there aren’t plenty of kittens saved from trees.
The first step in ending up with the right person is meeting the right person, and for something so important in our lives, we’ve had for doing it efficiently and intelligently.
For socially weird or anxious or shy people, trying to meet a stranger in public is a nightmare, and even for someone charming and outgoing, it’s a grueling task that requires a lot of luck.
e Harmony started in 2000, Ok Cupid in 2004, and more recently, a wave of mobile people-swiping apps, like Tinder and Hinge, have become wildly popular.
But is this a positive development or something to be concerned about?
Here is what I wrote back to her: First of all, I’ve had EVERY bad dating experience you can possibly imagine.
I’ve had women write me nasty emails, insult me over the phone, ignore my phone calls, stand me up, refuse to thank me for dinner, refuse to reciprocate in bed… And yet I still run around as this super dating advocate, because I believe it is the best prospect to find someone special.
Most of the people that write about online dating write about what’s wrong with it. I mean, that’s what news is – emphasize the bad, misery loves company, etc.
Is online dating making the world better and dating more effective, or is something important being lost or sacrificed as a result?
The way the current trend is heading, what will dating be like in 2030, and will that be a better or worse time to be on the dating market than 1995? I think the term “online dating” is part of the problem and makes people who don’t know much about it think it refers to people forming entire relationships online and only meeting in person much later.
I just urge people to find some healthier perspective on the whole thing.
A private client told me just this weekend that she’s quitting online dating after three bad dates in a row.